By Colleen Crawford, In Dating
In order to be able to spot a womanizer you need to understand what a womanizer is. Put in basic terms it is the word used to describe a man who is looking for a no strings attached sexual relationship with no ties and no consequences.
A womanizer will use every trick in the book to get you into bed and as soon as you are out of sight will be doing the same with someone else behind your back and will be cheating on you with any number of women, and the sad thing is, that in the process he will have totally stolen your heart. They are not easy to spot either as many of them operate a charm offensive that would melt the heart of even the hardest stone.
Masters of Disguise
A womanizer is inherently incapable of keeping a monogamous relationship; his ego is so inflated that he would feel unable to stay true to one woman as he would feel that there are women out there who need a man like him, and he is not going to let them go without. He will appear charming, debonair and have something about him that will just make you go all weak at the knees as soon as he approaches you, he will flatter you, smother you in a waterfall of compliments, all of which is drawing you further and further into his web. Don’t be fooled by the feeling that he arouses in you though, as he is manipulating you and you are playing right into his hands.
Defining a Womanizer
There a number of words that immediately spring to mind when asked to define or describe a womanizer; words like charming, attentive, powerful and mysterious are some of the most common. You could of course be a little more descriptive and add words like Casanova, lady-killer and seducer, these descriptions are a little darker, a little more sordid and a lot closer to the truth, unfortunately these words do not convey the utmost sincerity that he uses in his approach to his seduction.
Whilst womanizer is a blanket term there are several different types of womanizer that can be identified. The most common of which is the Alpha Male: It doesn’t matter what the situation is where you meet this man, he will make sure that he is positioned in such a way he is looked up to by his peers and worshipped by women. Whilst he may feel like he is a king with control over all that he surveys you can be sure that you will not be treated with the respect deserving of royalty. It is his over whelming confidence that will give you the first inkling that this man should be avoided at all costs.
Spotting the Signs
There are a number of signs and giveaways that you can look out for if you feel that you may have got yourself caught up in a relationship with a womanizer. One of the sad things is that women often don’t realize that they are caught up in one of these relationships until it is too late, which is why it is important to know what to look for right from the start.
Pet Names: A serial womanizer will tend to call you by a lot of pet names, things like ‘sweetie’ and ‘princess’ nothing that could be a derivative of your own name. He uses names like these so that there is no fear of him calling you by the wrong name, therefore getting caught out. Please bear in mind that just because your man calls you by a pet name, this does not mean that he is a womanizer, it is just something that you should be aware of.
Mobile Phones: Womanizers in relationships will be incredibly protective of their mobile phones. Even if it has never crossed your mind to take a peek, if you did you would find that he will not keep a record of text messages, everything will be deleted as soon as it has been read, and there will be no trace of the messages that he has sent either.
Vanity: All womanizers are inherently vain, the world has to revolve around them, and their inflated ego has them believing that the way that they treat women is totally acceptable. They take a lot of care over their appearance and are generally handsome and well groomed and will take incredible offence to any derogatory remakes made about the way that they look.
Trust Your Instincts
It is important that you trust your instincts when it comes to your relationships as female intuition is generally pretty accurate. Men have been getting away with treating women this way for generations, and no matter what you may think, if a man doesn’t want to be changed, no amount of love from a good woman is ever going to change him.